![]() ![]() People’s actions may be troublesome initially it is their inactions that plague them most with long-term feelings of regret.” Honoring our hopes and pursuing productive lives through faith in our purpose and priorities is the message from our elders. At the conclusion of their exhaustive research, Gilovich and Medvec in 1994 wrote, “When people look back on their lives, it is the things they have not done that generate the greatest regret. As Ware put it, “Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.” Bronnie Ware’s observations aren’t hers alone. Half-filled dreams and unfulfilled hopes: this was the number-one regret expressed by the dying. The most common regret was this: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself not the life others expected of me. As tough as these were, one stood out above them all. ![]() The five most common were these: I wish that I’d let myself be happier-too late they realized happiness is a choice I wish I’d stayed in touch with my friends-too often they failed to give them the time and effort they deserved I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings-too frequently shut mouths and shuttered feelings weighed too heavy to handle I wish I hadn’t worked so hard-too much time spent making a living over building a life caused too much remorse. When she questioned the dying about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, Bronnie found that common themes surfaced again and again. Ware spent many years caring for those facing their own mortality. “What kind of regrets? For me, very few books cause tears, much less require a handkerchief, but Bronnie Ware’s 2012 book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying did both. The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth About Extraordinary Results I’d say you can “book that,” but actually you should “block it.” Time on a task, over time, eventually beats talent every time. Michelangelo once said, “If the people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery, it wouldn’t seem wonderful at all.” His point is obvious. More than anything else, expertise tracks with hours invested. That’s the amount of time you need to time block every day for your ONE Thing. Sound familiar? It’s not a random number. Now, if your ONE Thing relates to work and you put in 250 workdays a year (five days a week for 50 weeks), to keep pace on your mastery journey you’ll need to average four hours a day. Many elite performers complete their journey in about ten years, which, if you do the math, is an average of about three hours of deliberate practice a day, every day, 365 days a year. “In one study, elite violinists had separated themselves from all others by each accumulating more than 10,000 hours of practice by age 20. ![]()
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